don't know if you have heard that wonderful slogan yet, but
"if nothing changes, nothing changes"
"if you want something different, you have to do something different"
as much as you would love your wife to do something about her drinking, more than likely she may not - the only thing you can change is you ~ That's where this site, Al-Anon and other support groups or counseling can help -
An oldtimer in the program once told me - "work the program you want your A to work"
just my e, s, & h - wishing you & your family the best!!
PINK HUGS, (hope, unity, gratitude & serenity)
Rita