Originally Posted by
Threshold 
Since we feel crappy saying that, and they get P'd off hearing it, we make up lies instead. No one believes them, but at least they sound better than the truth.
Wow. This really hit me this morning. As the now ex-wife of an alcoholic, the lying is probably the biggest issue I had. Not because he
lied, per se, but because now I couldn't believe in him anymore.
I tried, over time and with the help of counseling and Al-Anon, to find a sense of trust again, but his time frame for when that should happen (RIGHT NOW - he's sober damn it) and my time frame (one day at a time) didn't match. He insisted on divorce. And made up some lies to justify that decision.
I didn't believe his lies then, and I don't believe his lies now. But I suppose to him,
it all sounds better than the truth, to him. Thanks for sharing that perspective.
Finallygotout, have patience with your gf. It takes time to rebuild trust in a relationship.