my boyfriend is also addicted to opiates. and i also just realized that i am 100% codependent. my boyfriend is in pain management and so as we repeatedly go through him running prescriptions out, being dope sick, being sick from being back on opiates, getting pills from who knows where to avoid withdrawal, i am told that he NEEDS the pills and can't just STOP. what would he do about his pain?? so the opiates are like an unwelcome guest in my relationship that never leaves. because of all the lies/betrayals/broken promises, i've tried to make the analogy that it's as if he cheated on me and continues to hang out with the girl everyday. of course, he says this is not the same at all. maybe it isn't. but that's how it FEELS.
i hope your boyfriend is able to get the help he needs...and be active in recovering. the jury is still out on my situation. i'm still learning boundaries and i still can't help holding on to some kind of hope that things can get better. i wish you the best...