I am trying to make an appt. with a counselor who can deal with: marriage issues, AcoA issues (which she has), PTSD (which she has), and alcoholism.
You're going to therapy to deal with her issues? While I kept the focus on xabf's problems I wasn't growing or changing, just staying stuck in the problem. In order to get a good life and peace of mind I went to Al-anon (working the steps seriously) and therapy. Her problems are irrelevant since you're powerless over her. Where the real power lies in working hard on ourselves.