isn't that a big part of what priests are for?
sooo.... this week she breaks into your emails, doesn't like what she sees, throws a whole heap of accusations at you, says she wants a divorce, says she won't drink until it and now you are running around trying to find a counsellor who specialises in a whole heap of things that fit her.
...to what end?
she has thrown a tantrum over you talking to your priest (a faith you both share? so presumably she's heard that patroral care is part of the priests job description and it comes with built-in-confidentiality? I'm an atheist and even I'm pretty clear on that) and forced a marriage crisis to throw you off course. You appear to be reacting, trying to fix the marriage crisis.
I've done this many a time.
an alternative way of going about things might be to step back, breathe, take stock, get a counsellor for yourself who specialises in things that fit you, and see just how far she actually takes these "plans" of hers.