Originally Posted by
Kindeyes 
Another lie I told myself while married to my XAH for a very long time.
Marriage is forever. I made my bed and now I have to lay in it.
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Yep, that was my lie #1, which meant I relied on lie #2 " everything will be better when/if he quits". When I got free of lie #1, lie #2 didn't matter because I realized his behavior may not change and he may not quit or stay sober.
A big lie I am working to overcome is that I abandoned him by not following him to the new state.