As many others posted, after childhood than marriage with alcoholics, I,ll never seem normal. I try and think of ways I can create/behave normal for my kids though:
*Show them you can have an argument/discussion without a fight
*Show them that everyone makes mistakes and it's OK
*think of others feelings and that everything isn't about AH
*When you make a mistake take responsibility for it
*Participate in chores/activities (don't just dictate)
Of course I could go on and on. I quit making excuses for AH last year. My kids are old enough to see through his lies now. I just try and be the best parent that I can.