"What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet." I think Shakespeare had something there. It is possible that the word alcoholic was just too hard for your parents. If you are an alcoholic, then what are they?
When I visited my family recently I just said I was taking a 30 day break from drinking. That was not threatening to them, and therefore, somehow, ok. Now that I have hit 30 I think I will tell them I liked it and I’m going for another 30. I get that others needed to and did walk away from their family. I couldn’t. You have to do what works for you.
Sending prayers…