MadeOfGlass, good post. I think your suggestions are right on target. My point of view is slightly different though, in outlook not in the process.
Like you said the damage is done. I don't think I will ever be a normie again simply because I will never be able to unsee what I have seen.
However, what I can do is reach a place of sanity and serenity. A place where I have found my center and can live my life from there. As you said I can respond not react, I can be patient and let things unfold as they will. I will have a different view than a normie though. Anyone who has walked through hell will be changed and I accept that. Not only do I accept that I use it as a tool to live my life with much more skill than I had before. I use it to make me stronger and that is something a normie has not had to deal with.
I think you are on the right path and your recovery is shining through.
Your friend,