Do you have siblings who deny the harm?
I have 2 sisters who deny that our family was any different from others. One of the sister's has severe social phobia, HUGE control issues and other stuff. The other suffered from severe body dismorphia, agoraphobia (did not leave a house for roughly 3 years) and loads of other psichological problems (was in and out of psych hospitals for a few years in her late teen - early 20s until I took her from our mother by advise of psychiatrist and spent loads of energy and money on psychologists, etc. She is fine now btw). I have loads of psychological stuff going on too. I'm not sure if they deny it on purpose or don't remember. This makes me so angry. Nobody is validating what was going on and sometimes I start to think maybe I'm insane imagening things. Sorry for venting.