What about marriage counseling sometime in the future? You might want to wait until a year, and/or you sense some readiness in your RAH to deal directly with intimacy and your marriage. It could be that he's got enough on his plate right now to handle and isn't ready to tackle those really tough issues between the two of you.
In the meantime, you could go to Alanon regularly and follow the step program and take care of you.
So glad that your life is improving so much!
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