Oh God, yes-- and I still do. It helps that I'm 3,000 miles from the nearest family member now, but it certainly hasn't stopped the barrage of "You don't WANT to see her get better. If you did, you wouldn't say negative things about her." I don't say negative things, I just try to keep the situation in perspective, since they all take one day of her not drinking as a sign that she's "done for good." This is also apparently all my fault since I won't let her see or talk to her grandchildren. I can deal with that. The burden of responsibility for her drinking and recovery (or lack thereof) was always on my shoulders growing up, and there's no way in hell I'm passing THAT bull onto my kids! I've had to try to detach from the whole family, not just the alcoholic.