maybe you have some stereotypical image in your mind of what an addict "looks like"
addiction does not discriminate...it crosses all lines of gender, class, race, etc.
your man there has TOLD you flat out that he is addicted, that he deals drugs, that sex is part of that, he abused you, he cheated on you...what is it that you are expecting to see that will make you believe he is an addict?
my ex comes from a super successful, very wealthy, educated background, handsome as hell, very smart, very well spoken, well heeled, well groomed...and he is a crack addict of over twenty years...and it just gets worse....it just keeps progressing when it is not in recovery
you have been a perfect enabler in this scenario without even being aware of it...
but now you will be facing the truth of the progressive nature of this disease. it has become worse and worse, and now this is where you have arrived
you are at the fork in the road
choose wisely