You are doing great! I have applied for 26 jobs and finally got an interview this week, so hang in there!
It is SO hard to back off--but like you, as soon as I do, the As in my life make decisions for themselves. Good or bad, it doesn't matter. They were always making decisions for themselves anyway, but we didn't notice because we were so wrapped up in rescuing, helping and reacting to them. Keep remembering how GOOD it felt to detach a little bit. Maybe you don't go to the Dr. appt? Do you really need to go? Why? Just a little prodding because I would probably do the same but now I am learning to question my own actions with more scrutiny--what's my motivation, how will it serve me & my highest self?