Hey there. Alcoholism is not the the sole definition of who you are in this world. I can not only be a alcoholic. I am a wife and step-mother, I am a loving friend, a hard worker, runner.....I am a ton of things. I am also a person who has alcoholic behaviors and can't drink. Drinking helps me to be a terrible wife, a lousy friend, a absent sister......So, not to negate the fact that defining yourself as a Alcoholic is helpful but it is not the only thing that you are. You are so much more my friend!