Originally Posted by lizatola

It was then that I realized that I really didn't know what I wanted, but it was very easy for me to point out what I DIDN'T want. I don't want to live with verbal abuse (you want loving, sincere words?), I don't want to be disrespected (you want respect?), I want my opinion to have value (you want value and appreciation?), I don't want to live with a partner who uses alcohol in a harmful way (you want a non-alcoholic?), I don't want to be manipulated in conversations (you want to live in a pure stance - not based on manipulation - not walking on eggshells?), I don't want to live with someone who uses pornography (you want faithfulness/loyalty?), I don't want to live with someone who justifies breaking the law or who disregards it (you want a moral upstanding citizen?), I don't want to live in a home where I am blamed for things that I didn't do or cause (you want someone who can hold themselves accountable for their own actions?). Gee, that was easy, LOL! Yes it was!!! LOL!!


OK: did any of that make any sense, LOL? YES YOU MADE PERFECT SENSE!! Basically, I'm looking for input on what you'd need to be happy in a relationship. Is it respect, empathy, sympathy, trust, time spent together, or just simple compatibility?