Well as most of us have found out the tough stuff doesn't work either.
So we are left with us and making the best us we can be. I've learned not to be too hard on people who don't understand. How could they understand? I go through this with a lot of issues.
Sexual abuse is even worse. I've watched so many women mistreated by people who have no clue. I think the thing that makes me angry is they answer and give advice and have a know at all attitude about something they have never experienced.
Maybe we should ask them how they know that.
Let it roll off.
Hugs,
MG