Hydro girl, I really like your band-aid analogy!! His biggest issue is that he feels like I'm being wishy-washy (although sometimes I think I'm being pretty straightforward and he is still wearing his rose-colored glasses). I think I was just clinging to the hope of a nice future that in reality never will and never should be with him. More things happened this week that helped seal the deal, although until my house sells, I know I won't be free of him. A least I'm only 2 weeks awAy from being able to file a trespassing notice.