My heart goes out to you, So Exhausted. What a terrible difficult complicated emotional place to be in. You are doing what you need do; you are doing what you can do for your AGF. But I understand that is little solace when what she is choosing to do is so threatening and scary.
I am so sorry. Hang in there, keep coming here and talking to people just as often as you need to. Find as much support as you can -you deserve it.
BothSidesNow