Originally Posted by
choublak 
That's another thing, whenever she talks to me like this she's like, "it's not my intention to upset you or to make you mad, but..." and I usually do get mad, and raise my voice, to which she's then constantly interrupting me with, "lower your voice" so yeah it's like I fall into a trap that she conned me into helping her set. I don't know.
If that is NOT he intention then what IS her intention? Obviously she KNOWS whatever she is about to say to you is going to do just that, make you mad and raise your voice". She is making a statement by framing her intentions from the get go...before she's even said anything. I would suggest if this ever happens again to ask her - stop her in her tracks and ask her before she says ANYTHING to clarify her intentions then. You can always say you are not willing to listen to what she has to say if she starts off framing what she is about to say with crap like that.