Originally Posted by
choublak 
When people (parents etc.) criticize you, and then go on to say, "oh, but you shouldn't care what I think". It feels like it is, but I don't know.
I posted the definition above.
Let's look at this...some says something blah blah blah and then says "oh but you shouldn't care what I think"... what is that person REALLY saying? To me, they are saying what they mean and then dismissing their own words. To me, THEY put out there what they believe and feel to be right or true but then actually dismiss what they believe or think to be true. WHY would they do that? Did you question yourself after they said that? Did you say internally, "hey wait - I SHOULD care what they think!!" Well if you did then their mission was accomplished and it was extremely manipulative behavior.
Look into passive-aggressive behaviors. Very manipulative stuff indeed!!
Just my thoughts.
