Well, in my situation, I initially thought AX was very sensitive, gentle, etc. I thought he was very communicative and sweet. He comes across as very nice, not particularly "manly" in a lot of ways...the "sensitive type". It wasn't til time went on and his alcoholism was revealed to me that I found out he was an angry drunk. Really, really angry. So even though I grew up with an angry father, I tend to be attracted to men who have even tempers and don't have rage issues. It's pretty ironic, though, because in my last two relationships, I eventually realized I was dating men with serious anger who acted it out in passive agressive ways. What fun!
I know I have a long history of attracting screwed up men because I come across as strong and caring and they are looking for someone to take care of them. I honestly don't want to come across that way anymore. I feel like just falling apart so someone will take care of me for a change!