Becky, my AH accuses me of cheating, being a bad mom, bad housekeeper, nagging b*tch, lazy, uppity (love that one), fat, unappreciative...etc. he pulled all that out during the conversation where I was telling him I was leaving. I just stayed calm and kept countering with, "well you are free, you don't have to put up with a _____ wife anymore." it was very freeing to just stop him in his tracks, not buy into the manipulation.