I hear waht you are saying. However, my husband took an oath (in front of the judge and clearly written on the bond) to pick him up and return him to jail when he was released for rehab. We thought of calling the bonds person to pick him up.
We have read and learned we are to give emotional support, not enable.
So...no support at all? Is that what I am hearing?
I am learning, I am stronger. I will never let my DIL manipulate me again. I am working very diligently on not allowing my son to manipulate (because of his alcoholism).
My husband needs to learn, come to grips with letting go. As an adult child of an alcoholic, I know that view point. As the mom of an alcoholic it is heart wrenching...heart wrenching. If I was the spouse of an alcoholic, I would be DAM mad. Depends what role a person is in I think.