glad you found this place...you will meet alot of my friends here, they have alot of words of wisdom!
Melody Beattie wrote a few good books and i recommend them.."Codependent No More" and others...the Language of Letting go is a good journal
please try 6 meetings and keep going back...if you dont like one group, try another...have an open mind and
3Cs
you did not cause this
you can not control it
and there is no cure
your recovery is just that YOURS...his recovery is HIS if and, when every HE chooses to do so...he needs to do this all on him self