for me, there were a few things i did. i absolutely conceded that alcohol was the main problem in my life and it didnt help anything. the pain of getting drunk exceeded the pain of reality. i am very blessed that i didnt fry all my brain cells and i remembered a lot of the misery that alcohol was responsible. then i made a decision i was willing to do whatever was necessary to stop drinking and change me. it was a fight in the beginning. the craving, compulsion, and obsession were rather strong, but i knew where a drink was gonna take me. right back to the gloom dispair, and misery.