Thanks.
My partners father was a serious alcoholic and reading down the lists he fits all of the criteria.
when we chatted last night i asked if he could see what his drinking does to me, to which he replied that he couldn't?, that he's not doing anyone any harm if he is just drinking and not actually getting drunk, he's just sitting in the house with me, being nice, and not bothering anyone.
how do i answer that? i know its his defence.. i know its wrong but cant articulate why?