Jur123, I've been doing this dance with my own sister for many, many years. She, too, has what she feels are underlying health issues - anxiety, depression, and insomnia among others. All addicts do. The thing is, there's no way for you to know what dosage of psychiatric medication may be necessary. I've detached from my sister and I allow her to live her life the way she sees fit. I went "no contact" with her for several months, also. No matter how many times I tried to control the situation or "help", it ended in the same result. The fine people on this forum are very knowledgable, and will help you alot, too.