If you're able to speak with him without fear, try to take the high road and open up communication with him re: your daughter. Let go of the anger, lower your expectations of him as a person, don't judge him, speak to him as though he is a person you've met at the grocery store. Not saying it would be easy because Lord knows I know there's a lot of emotion involved. Personally, if I saw my AXBF right now I'd probably want to beat the $&@€ out of him. But for your daughter's well-being, find a way for mommy to stop contributing to the toxicity. Also, there are professionals who can assist you in developing a co-parenting plan. If you Google that, you will find some examples of plans.
Good for you for putting your daughter at the top of the priority list.