Mine was the same. If I saw him for lunch or talked to him on the phone, anything I did to offer him " support" was never enough. When I went nc he lost it and I ended up getting a restraining order. Looking back I wish I had done it months before.
And at the same time, I am embarrassed to admit I still feel the urge to know how he is.
I Pick up the phone then remind myself that nothing has changed
He is Still drinking, and that is not because of me.
He told me so many times that I didn't give him a chance. Truth is I gave him hundreds, and if u were to give him 101, he would blow that too.
Make changing your locks a priority. Get a notebook and write everything down.