something just came to me. in our discussions or arguments since he has been in recovery he always sais all the "bad" things about me. Like that all the decisions with our son were always mine and that he had enough of that. Does not like that about me. But what he fails to see is that if we were in a healthy relationship i did not have to do that! I was a single parent with the occasional times that he played with him or read a story. I never wanted to be "miss full charge". I have not been since he became sober.