anvilhead, no, you have not missed a thing ;-) it was the other way around (but that hardly matters) he came here for some "action" the night before she came.
I guess i am not up on what is healthy. I personally think that he has used aa and his recovery like drinking. I understand it is about him and his recovery, but he seems to be unable to balance it. Its ALL JUST HIM. nothing else and nobody else matters.
The way he talks and what he sais make me thing that he is on his way to healthy. I know it has only been 5 months! He seems to have things "straight". Does not really talk non sense anymore. He said he has been pondering this for about a month and that not wanting our marriage anymore what his decision. Not sure why he talks this out with his sponsor, mom and others and i was never involved in the talk...