It's amazing how words can hurt.
I've read your posts for the last few months and you have so much wisdom to share. Please don't let his jealousy (because that's what it is) stop you from moving forward in your life. He's using the G (guilt) and it's working.....he's already got you taking a couple of steps backward when you had such a wonderful forward trajectory going. Those addicts......whooooooo boy........are they ever good at that and we are so good at giving them that power over us.
You are a bright, independent, loving, beautiful woman and you deserve a life to be shared with a partner who respects and reflects those wonderful qualities--not someone who wants to snuff them out to make themselves feel better.
Now he contacts me to say "don't contact me".
He hurts and he wants you to hurt.....and he succeeded.....if you let him.
gentle hugs
ke