You've been talking to the wrong people at the meetings, or more likely been missing the right people!
The solution in AA is to get a sponsor who has worked the steps of AA to gain a spiritual awakening (drastic personality change) to show you how to do the same.
It's a simple program and is easy....MEETING -> SPONSOR -> STEPS ->SPIRITUAL AWAKENING = RECOVERY FROM ALCOHOLISM
You can start this simple program the first meeting you go and recover...or not, that is up to the individual!