Originally Posted by
RobbyRobot 
Why not just calmly ask him if he notices whatever real changes you have made?
Well... because he is right in some respects. Just because I quit drinking doesn't mean I'm this all new improved, perfected person. I am still me, with the faults, habits, etc. - just without booze. And I'm working on it. So I'm putting faith in myself, my program -- that if I keep doing what I'm doing, I'll reap the rewards one day. One day, eventually, others will notice the huge changes in me.
Until then, I feel I have to just keep doing my thing. I don't feel I can expect my husband to just "see" the all new me. After all, we've been together for nearly 12 years, and I've only been doing this for 7 months.
I appreciate what you said about words said during an argument. I am going to keep that in mind.