DT: We are already there. He's said to me a couple of times now, during one of our arguments, that I may have quit drinking, but I haven't changed any of my habits. I get what he's saying, that I still have the same problems, reactions, etc., I'm just not drinking. It's true.
But what drives me crazy is how I have changed!! When he says that I think, but, but, don't you see???? I think soooo much more clearly now, I'm thoughtful now, I'm not quite as selfish, I care more now, I'm not just into getting my drink on and screw everything else!! Before, during our arguments, I would've turned into this raging monster, screaming and yelling, threatening to off myself, leave, divorce, and acting f-ing nutso.
But he doesn't see..... agh!!!!!!!! And this is at the heart of my issue, resentment, frustration with my husband.