Originally Posted by FifiRhubarb

NOT stupid at all!! I am sure you had the best intentions, and maybe he did too. But you are absolutely right about what you said in another post: love is supposed to be work, but not the kind that sucks the life out of you. If my job were as stressful as my relationship has been, I'd have quit a long time ago!

The tendency of the addict to think everything revolves around them...ugh. I am seeing it more and more every day with my ABF/XBF (I really don't know what we are). He tells me he needs me to encourage him, help lift him up when he doubts he can stop drinking. But if I express any doubt about if we will work (and I can honestly say that 98% of this doubt is caused by his constant crap), he makes me feel guilty.