I'm so in agreement with everything that Sevenofnine just said. And I'm sure that you all are very close, it's just that we teach others how to treat us. This is something that I have always heard in Alanon & it so fit me in every relationship that I've ever had. I always got treated just like you are saying. It's really not good for anyone involved. I learned that that is not a healthy relationship. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this, cause you sound like such a wonderful loving Mother.
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