He needs a mother...not a girlfriend.
My experience with both ex-husbands was the same. My second ex called me "ma" one time, <shudder>. Yes, they hated and did not trust their mothers, so I was supposed to take their place and be the perfect partner, while they hated and mistrusted me.
Yeah, I guess I thought I needed the punishment (being a drunk).
Neither one of them knew me at all. How I felt or that I craved love and attention and would be very happy to give it back. But, by that time, I hated and mistrusted them.
So it was always over before it began, you know what I mean?
Thank you for sharing, it has helped me clear my head.
Beth