Codiebird: "Put it on the scales. Does he ever say how lucky he is to have a wonderful woman who loves him and does what she does for him?"
Haha...my answer is the same as yours. NEVER. Because in his opinion, I am not a very loving person. I am standoffish and come across harsh and people we know are saying this about me. Just yesterday he said I wasn't feminine and was like a man. Because a woman is supposed to follow their man and be a partner and support their man and some more horse crap.
And, I know that I am not loving to HIM...I just don't feel it. Oh, I've tried. I've attempted to be all soft and sweet and loving, but it has no effect on him. The sad thing is he has NO idea how loving I can really be. He doesn't deserve it. What he wants is someone who wants to spend every waking moment with him, doing what he wants, when he wants, appreciating every little thing he does for them and constant reassurance and comforting. He needs a mother...not a girlfriend.