Originally Posted by
anvilhead 
why DID you go back? is he still active?
Why? Good question. I didn't start with going back. It happened little by little over time and eventually we were right back where we started from. A part of me felt I was different and whenever he would do something that bothered me, I approached it differently. I maintained my life as best I could (which he hated) and learned to let things go.
He still drinks, still gets high. After an incident last week he is back in the cutting back mode to prove he doesn't need alcohol, yet open his fridge and there is a nice fresh case of beer.