It is getting easier to say no
A while ago I posted that I said No for the first time to my AS and I didn't feel guilty. I have noticed how easy it is to be drawn back into their manipulation, but I have been vigilant. He has been living at an older woman's house and I can see things are going south and he needs another taxi service. I refuse to become that. After another request to take him somewhere, I emailed bacK:
I love you dearly, but part of you not having a car is because of the life choices you have made. I respect your choices, but I am not prepared to share the consequences with you. I hope you can understand.
Guilt is not driving all my actions towards him and it feels as if I am starting to understand what loving detachment means. I still have a while to go but it feels good!