L2L you are absolutely right. I've been with him almsot 13 years and I was 16 when we started dating. I realized there was a problem in 2004. He got sober as far as I knew. I later found out that he was hiding it and doing really well at it. It wasn't until he was fired December 8th 2010 that he became sloppy. I was so gullable. I 'd ask him for years why his breath smelled like alcohol. He would just say it's his energy drink. It was just not the kind I thought. It was sparks. I guess that justified the lying in his eyes.