Im sure it's been said in one way or another, but it needs repeating: lie after lie, manipulations to make you look like the bad guy, blaming you if they're the bad guy, deflections and indirectness to keep you guessing, passive aggressiveness to get their way without having to ask you (because you offer it instead).
I had two really really super pleasant conversations with my AH today, so all of this alcoholic BS is fresh in my mind. At least now I know what to expect and don't feel completely swindled afterwards. If he mentions something he wants but doesn't ask me for it directly, I let it go and do not offer. He gets rather frustrated, I just smile to myself
