Originally Posted by
choublak 
Well, my father is NOT an alcoholic/addict, so he must have undergone some traumatic experience as a child or something. I don't know.
choublak,
For some reason, I thought he was the addict/alcoholic in your life. I assumed that I guess from some of the stuff he does. Like expecting you to be his spokesperson to your mom. Like lobbying congress.
I am sorry, I think the person with the traumatic experience is you, having him for a father.
He sounds like (from what you have said here, absolutely no boundaries with you) he has a very serious personality disorder. Narcissism maybe?
He can be toxic to you though, is there any way you can avoid him? stop answering his calls, stop listening to the next selfish insane idea to get your mother back? I think you deserve some peace.
:ghug3
Beth