Have you read Codependent No More? It's a good book.
Someone else talked about is Don't Let Your Kids Kill You. I haven't read that one, but when I looked at it on Amazon they also mentioned Setting Boundaries With Your Adult Children.
I know I didn't raise my 2 adult children to rely on themselves. I've admired one of my sisters parenting abilities in that area - although I think she went too far in the opposite direction - I wish I'd found some middle ground in the area. It's never too late though, as I focused more on myself and quit enabling my son my relationship with both kids has been changing for the better. Maybe they'll be totally independent some day!
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