Oh my, I really think that you should run away for at least a week. I've done it for a day all by myself before. It was wonderful !!! I only have 2 grown kids, but I really needed that day all to myself. I just made sure that they were physically well, then I didn't answer the phone & I left town, it was so restful. I felt so free. Since then, gradually I have learned to let them figure out how to deal with everything without my being so easily available to help them. We teach people how to treat us. We also forget that we are people too & we need the same care that we feel our grown children need. We can't expect that care to come from anyone else. We have to take care of ourselves just as we would take care of one of them.