Boy does that whole scenario sound familiar. It got to the point if my ex said it was raining outside I had better go look out the window and check. I don't know if you ever heard this before but~How can you tell if an addict is lying their lips are moving.
And for those that think i am picking on addicts, I am a recovering addict of 8 years and when I was in my disease, when my lips were moving I was definitely lying or trying to con something out of you.
God I am so blessed not to have to live that way anymore, but it took a lot of work.
You are so right he has to hit a bottom, and that is his problem not yours.
I hope the rest of your day is peaceful & drama free.