Hey Jeni I always feel that way when I hear about people relapsing. It's an odd sort of sensation and I am still working on figuring out why it is? Is my AV using someone else's troubles to get inside my head? Is it fear working it's ugly grip into my mind because I think that I may follow suit? Do I think that if I relapse that I can just go back to being sober again? I really can't figure it out but I imagine that it is a combination of these factors that adds up to a powerful sensation. I've seen a lot of AA members express anger at the people that keep coming in and out of the programs... I never really understood why. Isn't the returning/new member the most important? I am beginning to understand a little more why so many of them react the way that they do. That being said... I've still got a lot to learn about being sober. My recovery should be insulated from other people's actions/inactions. Not an easy thing to do for sure! Gotta keep working on it. Take care!