Its so easy to be strong when my ABF is being an a**. But during the aftermath when the flowers, gifts, Im Sorry's and It'll Never Happen Again's come, he is quite brilliant at appearing sincere. I find myself holding onto my anger in an attempt not to buy back in. I've learned long ago what a heavy burden anger is to carry around - its a horrible way to go thru life. Anyone have some words of wisdom on this? I've read about Detachment with Love. Is that even possible? I dont know that i even love him anymore. Why why why do i always feel obligated to give him yet another chance.
I was going to say exactly what anvilhead said. It's extremely helpful to put this behavior into a pattern. The reason his sincerity is confusing and you're struggling to hold onto your resolve is because this cycle of abuse is *designed* to make you second-guess yourself. You're struggling in phases 3 & 4 to break the cycle once and for all.
